Long before I knew anything about being an “empath,” I experienced intense levels of sensitivity. Feeling everything around me, within me, and within others was just a part of my life.
Like many empaths, I learned how to repress my deep well of feelings so that I could have a “functional” life. As a teenager, I was a vibrant ball of light naturally. I was comfortable and confident in my own skin, but due to my intense sensitivity, I was also easily crippled by criticism, personal attacks, and the hopelessness of others. When I was 18, I started university; I was facing an adult world that seemed to promise nothing other than sadness and self-sacrifice.
I went into a state of on-and-off depression that lasted for almost ten years. The more I tried to repress the intense feelings that my body was experiencing, the more anxious I became. The more I tried to deny my nature, the more depressed I became.
Eventually, I became so accustomed to blending in with this world’s darkness that I forgot what it felt like to be truly and deeply connected with myself. I was paying all my bills, working super hard in low-paying day jobs, and maintaining top-of-the-class grades in both undergraduate and graduate university. By external, Western standards, I was doing it all “right.” On the inside, I wanted to disappear. I just wanted to stop existing.
I now understand that these feelings are “normal” for an empath who is living in a state of disempowerment. The desire to numb the body and the brain, disconnection from the body, living in a frenzied brain of endless worries on a loop, unable to get out of bed in the morning for fear of what I would feel, living to please others so that I wouldn’t have to feel their disapproval, etc.
Despite succeeding in all arenas of my life, I was disempowered without even realizing it. I was living to please my parents, my friends, and even strangers who did not know who I was. It was easier to sacrifice myself than to feel the sting of disapproval from others.
Despite the numbing and self-destructive behaviour, I still felt this whisper within me; it was a calling to heal the world. This made no logical sense, and yet, I knew that the whisper was real. It was always there. From the time I was small, this whisper has always been there. The whisper of an empath: “heal yourself so you can heal others.”
The whisper is what kept me moving through suicidal months, abusive relationships, and binge behaviours with drinking, eating, and smoking. The whisper to be a healer for the world kept me moving through intensely challenging coursework in university; I knew that my psychology-focused education was going to be crucial to where I was going. I did not know exactly where I was going, but I knew that I would need this knowledge in order to thrive there.
Then, as if a perfectly wound clock went off, something clicked. It was time to start breaking free from the “perfect prison” that I had designed for myself.
I was done my coursework for my master’s degree in counselling psychology. It was in those moments of witnessing first-hand the insidious nature of traditional therapy that I snapped. As my training tried to stifle my sensitive gifts for favour of “empirical methods,” I quickly learned that the life of a therapist was never going to work for me. However, the life of a FREE coach called to me. I decided to burn down that “perfectly arranged” life, taking massive financial risks in an attempt to understand WHAT and WHO I was.
I started my own life coaching business straight out of university; this was a career dream, but it ended up being the start of my own healing journey.
As I met more empaths like me, and as I found more mentors who UNDERSTOOD me, I opened my heart. I opened my soul. Gradually, and then quickly, I learned how to become a fully empowered, embodied empath. My deepest transformation happened in Bali, Indonesia when I went on a 10-day retreat hosted by my mentor. It was in the heart of the universe, the womb of the earth that I learned EXACTLY who I am. Not only did I understand my empathic nature from an empowered place, but I also FELT myself for the first time in a decade!
It was not always easy…
My business has challenged me to grow personally in the deepest way. In the beginning, I learned a lot about the importance of integrity and values; no amount of income can replace the importance of staying true to your values in business. A lot of the times, I was challenged by distractions of “make sales fast” and “double your income quickly,” which often stalled my inner development.
Over time, I have learned and fully embodied the divine principle of integrity when creating my success. Even if it takes longer this way, creating a life and business based on purpose takes some time, some bravery, and a lot of risk.
Now, my passion is to work with purpose-based entrepreneurs (thought leaders) to custom design their dream life based on their heart and soul. Your soul-based business is not something that can be rushed or pushed. It is a journey, one in which your personal/internal growth must come FIRST so that your business can truly thrive from your life force energy.
This harmonization of life and business requires support from someone who has walked this walk before you, and that is why my clients hire me. Together, we open their hearts, awaken their souls, and bring this potent life force energy into their purpose-driven business so that they can attract clients and impact the world with serene confidence.
My work is both healing and activating. I heal you so that you can heal others. It is time to awaken the hearts of the Western world (and beyond).
In healing yourself, you heal the world. In empowering yourself, you empower the world.
Are you ready?